Have you ever wondered what people think of you? I mean, what they REALLY think of you? Sometimes it’s hard to tell how others really feel about us, but if you have made a habit of any of the following, it’s a safe bet that people really do not like you and you need to make some serious life adjustments:
#1. Nobody likes someone who butts in on private conversations. If two people are standing closely together having a conversation in hushed tones, do not approach them. They are having a private conversation and you were not invited. The reason they are positioned closely together and speaking softly is because they don’t want others (ie. you) to hear what they are saying.
#2. You are not the Holy Spirit for others. It is not your sole purpose in life to tell people why they are wrong or how they could be a better person. Yes, you are entitled to your opinion, but that does not mean anyone wants to hear it. If someone asks for your opinion, then by all means, give it, but if they don’t ask, keep your trap shut. This is a basic life skill that so many have yet to master.
#3. Stop bragging. Stop assuming everyone is as interested in you as you are. Yes, you are the center of your own world, but you are not the center of everyone else’s. Your inflated sense of self-importance is not flattering and there’s a good chance that most of your friends are talking about you behind your back.
#4. If you find yourself involved in drama all the time, then it’s a good indication that YOU are the center and creator of the drama. Likewise, people who feel the need to tell you that they hate drama are typically the exact people who bring drama into your life. Do not be these people and do not associate with them.
#5. When you say something stupid in a group of people, stop talking immediately. The worst possible thing you can do is to continue to speak and dig yourself an even deeper ‘hole of stupidity’. Simply be silent and pretend that stupid thing never came out of your mouth, so you can salvage what little bit of your dignity is left. We all say dumb things occasionally, but it’s those who continue to ramble that no one can stand.
#6. You are the only one who thinks your ill-behaved child is adorable. No matter how outwardly cute your kid is, when he or she kicks, talks back, bullies others, or is destructive, no one thinks it’s cute. Regardless of what they say to your face, everyone else thinks your kid is a total brat.
#7. Don’t take everything personally. If you are offended by everything and make a big deal out of nothing, then the only people who like you are others who are offended by everything and make a big deal out of nothing.
#8. When someone else is talking, remain quiet. Your job is to listen while others take, not to be forming your reply and definitely not to be talking over that person. People hate constant interrupters and avoid them like the plague.
#9. Listen to yourself. If every word that comes from your mouth is negative and if you speak fluent “gripe”, then I can guarantee no one really likes you. People like to be around positive, fun people, not negative, complaining, fun-suckers.
#10. No one is an expert on every subject. If you are inclined to respond with your ‘so-called expertise’ in every conversation, then I am positive that no one likes you, because no one likes a “know-it-all”. Most “know-it-alls” don’t even like themselves.
This is obviously not an exhaustive list, but it’s a great place to start when trying to determine if you are likeable, tolerable, or just plain loathsome to the general public. If you personally identify with one or more of the traits contained in this list, it is definitely time to change your behavior.